“So what Kind of therapy do you do, anyway?”
“So what kind of therapy do you do, anyway?”
Because I am a therapist, people come to me seeking guidance and support on issues that are troubling them. I work mainly with individual adults coping with trauma, caregiver stress, and life transitions like changing jobs, grief, or job and career changes, or relationship stress, especially with unresolved family issues. Then they ask me my opinion about what they should do about the issue at hand, and I tell them, “We will come to that, but know that I work a little differently than other therapists. I don’t evaluate, I help people process whatever is on their mind, and come to a conclusion.”
That is completely true, and yet, it sounds really vague. Or maybe it sounds like I am a slacker who just wants to collect a fee and let you rant, while not really doing anything myself. (I promise you, that is NOT the case!) They scrunch up their foreheads and look at me like I just said I came from the planet Neptune. They seem really doubtful, worried that talking to me will be a waste of time. In some ways, I don’t blame them. What good is a therapist if they don’t weigh in and give you their take on what is going on with you, right? But then, some of them are willing to try a session or two with me, and then they see how it works.
Most people are used to having a therapist interpret or evaluate what they are doing. This does have its
benefit, and if that is what you want, I respect that. But I roll a bit differently these days.
Maybe you have already had therapy, and it helped. It’s been months or years, though, and your stress is up, conflicts are happening in your life, old triggers are acting up, and you are considering therapy again. But you aren’t sure if this is the right time, or if the therapist you choose will be the right fit. You may especially feel this way about me right now, because on top of not knowing me apart from anyone else, I am describing something that sounds kind of unconventional. You want something a bit more, well, familiar.
Or maybe, it’s the opposite. You say to yourself, “I’ve done my therapy! I already KNOW what my issues are. I don’t need to learn anything else or get any more insights that I don’t already have. I don’t want to hear yet another person lecture me about what to do to change or feel better. I just need the problem to go away.”
Well, then, how about a therapist who works a bit differently than most? If you decide to work with me, we will still work on the issues that are distressing to you, whether you deem them little or big. And as you do this, you will likely begin to see and feel changes. The most incredible thing is, it’s not because of what I tell you, but because we are peeling away the layers of awareness that are already within you. This is Traumatic Incident Reduction and Life Stress Reduction, all part of Applied Metapsychology, which you can read more about here.
Maybe this sounds “out there”. Had I not had a respected colleague tell me a while back about this method and train me in it, I would feel the same way. This is a SAMHSA-approved method of working through trauma, anxiety, and most types of life stress, and it really helps you unload and get some peace, relief, and resolution. I know this, because in my training, I had to be on the receiving end of it, and it improved my own distress around some issues. It wasn’t always easy, but it was effective.
Even if you just do a few sessions, you will likely find it helpful.
If you want to give it a try, and you are 18 and over, call me, and we can get started.
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